Songs for Funerals: It’s Not About the Playlist, It’s About the Person
Ever wonder why funeral song lists always include the same handful of tracks? “Amazing Grace,” “Wind Beneath My Wings,” something by Carrie Underwood-rinse and repeat. But let’s be real. A song can’t capture a person’s entire life. The music that plays at a funeral isn’t about tradition or rankings; it’s about the person being honored. And that means you don’t have to follow the usual script.
Too Long; Didn’t Read: Songs for Funerals
The ‘right’ song is the one that feels right to you. Forget the standard funeral playlist.
Music creates connection. Whether it’s a gospel choir, a local band, or a playlist of their favorite road trip songs, let the music bring people together.
You have options. Live music, recordings, sing-alongs, or even a DJ-it’s all on the table.
A funeral doesn’t have to be solemn. If they loved to dance, why not make it a party?
The funeral industry pushes ‘traditional’ funeral music. That doesn’t mean you have to go along with it.
Why Do Funerals Always Have the Same Songs?
Blame the industry. Funeral homes and services often default to the same small set of ‘appropriate’ tracks because it’s easier. And sure, for some people, “How Great Thou Art” or “Supermarket Flowers” might hit home. But for others? Maybe the best sendoff is blasting “Die Young” by Kesha or throwing on “One More Time” by Daft Punk as the casket lowers.
The point? There’s no rulebook. A funeral is personal. And if music is playing, it should actually mean something.
What Kind of Funeral Music Can You Choose?
Anything. Seriously.
Live music – A cousin on guitar, a school choir, a jazz trio. If live music meant something to them, bring it in.
Sing-alongs – Some people believe our souls connect when we sing together. Maybe it’s a hymn, or maybe it’s “Bohemian Rhapsody” at full volume.
Recorded favorites – If they had a go-to song, play it. If they had a guilty pleasure track, blast it.
Dance party – If they were the kind of person who loved to move, don’t make everyone sit still. Play music that makes people feel something.
Breaking the ‘Somber’ Rule
Not every funeral has to be a quiet, reflective event. Some people want a sendoff that feels like a celebration. Picture this:
A mariachi band leading a procession
A jazz funeral where the music starts slow but ends in a full-on second line parade
A playlist of road trip songs playing in the background while everyone shares stories
A moment where everyone raises a glass and sings along to “Wonderful World”
If music was a big part of their life, why not let it be a big part of their funeral ceremony too?
Don’t Let the Industry Decide For You
Funeral homes love to keep things traditional. They’ll suggest “Amazing Grace” or “Wind Beneath My Wings” because it’s what’s expected. But you don’t have to stick to the script.
The music you choose should reflect the person you’re honoring, not what some funeral director thinks is ‘appropriate.’ So if their favorite song was by The Band Perry, play it. If they always played Sam Smith on repeat, add it to the playlist. If they loved 80s rock ballads, let “Total Eclipse of the Heart” fill the room.- It is right.
Frequently Asked Questions: Funeral Music
1. What are the most popular funeral songs?
Traditional picks include “Amazing Grace,” “Wind Beneath My Wings,” and “How Great Thou Art.” But popular funeral songs vary by culture, era, and personal taste.
2. Can I play modern funeral songs instead of traditional ones?
Absolutely. There’s no rule that says you have to stick with traditional funeral songs.
3. Is it okay to play upbeat music at a funeral?
Yes. If the person being honored would have wanted a more celebratory sendoff, upbeat music can be a great way to pay tribute.
4. Can I have live music at a funeral?
Of course. Whether it’s a solo singer, a choir, or a full band, live music can add a personal touch.
5. Do I have to follow a funeral home’s music suggestions?
Nope. It’s your choice. You’re free to play whatever music best represents the person being remembered.
